Most reading lists for men in transition are predictable: a blend of Stoic grit and Spartan endurance. They teach you how to survive, but not necessarily how to heal. As much as I want to be "hard", I want to build a fortress around myself so that I will never be hurt by a life transition like this again. I picked up All About Love  by bell hooks. To be honest, the title alone felt "too soft" for where I am. I’m a forty-year-old man navigating a divorce; I didn't think I need